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Making prayer a priority

 

By Julie Dwyer
November-December 2017

Mary Meyer carried index cards with her wherever she went.

On each was a list of names of people she needed to pray for or other concerns. She would jot down new names and prayer requests as they came to her, and then she'd tuck the cards into her Bible, her purse or even the cushions of her favorite chair.

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If she had a free minute, she was praying.

"I think it's honest to say she was never bored because of her prayer life," said her grandson, Gilbert C. Hanke, top executive of the General Commission on United Methodist Men.

Hanke said after his grandmother's death, his parents helped clear out the family's home in Kansas and found more than a hundred of her prayer cards scattered around in books, drawers and other places.

"It was like seeds that she planted," Hanke said. "I don't have much from Grandma, but I do have this memory. Every time I see an index card, that's what I think of."

Hanke's grandfather was a United Methodist pastor and Hanke said both of his grandparents took seriously their membership vows, including the promise to faithfully participate in the church's ministries through their prayers, presence, gifts, service and witness.

But it was their passion for prayer that stood out for him.

Gilbert Hanke connects to one of his weekly online covenant discipleship/prayer groups.    Photo by Kathleen Barry, United Methodist Communications

Gilbert Hanke connects to one of his weekly online covenant discipleship/prayer groups.    Photo by Kathleen Barry, United Methodist Communications.

"Grandpa was the best prayer I've ever experienced. He prayed all the time. He prayed out loud. If you were at his house and you got up in the morning, you would hear him praying. Whether it was a concern about something happening in the world or a personal concern on his health, there was nothing too small or too great for him to pray about," Hanke said.

A vow explained

Building a solid prayer life can be a struggle for some. While new United Methodists vow to uphold their congregation through their prayers, many don't know what that means.

"We ask people, ‘Will you uphold this church by your prayers, presence, gifts, service and witness?' That's great as far as it goes, but the average person has no real clue what they've said yes to," said the Rev. Dan R. Dick, assistant to Bishop Hee-Soo Jung of the Wisconsin Conference. "Are we talking about praying daily, weekly, monthly, 10 minutes a day, 30 minutes a day? I don't know that there's a right answer."

The Rev. Dan Dick and Lisa King pray together during evening worship at the 2012 United Methodist General Conference in Tampa, Fla. Photo by Mike DuBose, UMNS

The Rev. Dan Dick and Lisa King pray together during evening worship at the 2012 United Methodist General Conference in Tampa, Fla. Photo by Mike DuBose, UMNS

Dick said it's important for faith communities to help members understand what is expected of them, not only when they join the church but also as they renew their vows. "If we want to hold people accountable to growing in their discipleship, there has to be a standard," he said.

In the late 1990s and early 2000s, Dick analyzed more than 700 United Methodist congregations in his role with the General Board of Discipleship (now Discipleship Ministries). He studied healthy churches that were making an impact in their community, churches helping people grow in their discipleship at the same time they were growing in membership.

The results of the study are published in his book Vital Signs.

"When there were clearly defined expectations, it was easier to measure — to say, how well are people fulfilling the vows, fulfilling the promises they made?" he said. "In the church, we pay lip service to how important prayer is, but I really saw that where churches have prayer as a common practice and a regular expectation, people were more engaged."

Accountability helps

Dick cites several churches during that time that set out to define membership and hold members accountable to their vows. One, Mathewson Street United Methodist Church in Providence, Rhode Island, was a struggling congregation in decline for a significant number of years. Church leaders decided to set standards for membership. While there was pushback and some longtime members left the church, the church found its culture changed.

"It turned things from a negative energy to a positive energy," Dick said. "These things weren't added-on burdens, requirements and obligations, but were wonderfully valuable ways to build relationships, both with God and with other people in the congregation."

The power of prayer also is evident at St. Mark United Methodist Church in Harare, Zimbabwe. The church hosts early morning prayer services that draw as many as 500 people.

Known as rumuko in the local chiShona language, the prayer gatherings are held from 4 to 6 a.m. each day and focus on individual prayers.

Eggester Jokomo, 82, a pioneer of the St. Mark prayer program, said some people travel more than 20

Eggester Jokomo   Photo courtesy of Eggester Jokomo

Eggester Jokomo  

Photo courtesy of Eggester Jokomo

miles from nearby towns to attend on Saturdays when evangelist Fred Bande Mutemera conducts spiritual healing and deliverance services.

"Saturday prayers attract the highest attendance," Jokomo said. "We mainly pray for ourselves, our church and our nation. Early morning prayers are more powerful than those done at any other time of the day. It takes a lot of willpower to rise and leave the comfort of your bed at such an hour."

For members whose local church doesn't offer prayer services or small prayer groups, Dick suggests finding a prayer partner for accountability and making a short list of specific things you are going to pray about. "Put it on an index card and hold it in the palm of your hands, and pray those things on a regular basis."

While index cards weren't the right fit for Hanke (he prefers Post-it Notes), he has tried to incorporate what he learned from his grandparents into his own prayer life.

"When something comes up, I'll write it down and stick it in a place where I know where it is. When it's time, when I'm trying to work through something or I need a break ... there's that reminder of here's a list of folks you need to be praying for. Sometimes it's a stock list of family and friends and activities. Sometimes it's places I've been on mission trips. Sometimes it's people we hear about in the office who are going through hard times."

Learning to pray is OK

Dick said there's no wrong way to pray and it's OK to seek guidance.

"The assumption is we're lifelong Christians, we've grown up in the church and we know how to pray. Yet many laity say they don't know whether they are doing it right," Dick said.

Hanke agreed, and said he often struggles with his own prayer life.

"I've prayed some prayers that were pretty angry and pretty self-centered," he said. "Then I had to go back and say, ‘Sorry about that.' ... It's something that is a work in progress for me. It's probably a work in progress for everybody."

Dick urges church leaders to get back to the basics and help members be successful in upholding their vows through spiritual disciplines. New member classes are a good place to start. For larger churches, he said small groups often make the most sense.

"Real accountability and engagement requires a level of intimacy that really gets lost when you have hundreds of people present," he said.

Building a community of prayer starts with building relationships and making a real effort to put in the work needed to uphold the vows of the church.

"We live in a culture right now where trust is pretty low, where one person's word or promise is not always valued too highly," Dick said. "We're living in a world of fake news and alternative facts. Calling people to a level of integrity, to say nobody is telling you what you ought to do, but when you say you are going to do something, it's important that you do that. I love that message."

Julie Dwyer is a writer and editor for United Methodist Communications. Reach her at jdwyer@umcom.org. Eveline Chikwanah, a communicator of the Zimbabwe East Annual Conference, contributed to this report.